tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7213274210281482944.post4297690921956681030..comments2013-04-23T10:15:44.284-07:00Comments on Drake and Lulu: The fertility postKellyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03886630240463951270noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7213274210281482944.post-33915485097083210472009-05-04T18:28:00.000-07:002009-05-04T18:28:00.000-07:00Hey Kelly,
I was looking for a place on your blog...Hey Kelly,<br /><br />I was looking for a place on your blog to say THANK YOU! for the generous donation to the March of Dimes walk we did on Saturday when I found this post. I think I could have written it myself and as you know, here I am now, pregnant again naturally after years of trying with no success and wondering what life will be like once this bean comes into our lives.<br /><br />I have to be honest when I say that my reasons for wanting to get pregnant again were more than just to have another baby. I wanted, in some ways, a "do-over" after the experience we had with the girls. A chance to have a "normal" pregnancy, which occurred the "normal" way, and which resulted in a "normal" birth-of course normal is a pretty elusive term but you know what I mean.<br /><br />I think if I had gotten pregnant much sooner than when I did, I would have freaked out as it sounds like you did when you got pregnant again, although it's never easy to have a miscarriage. I'm hopeful that this will end up being a full term pregnancy with no complications and the fact that the girls will be just about to turn 4 when the baby is due will make it much easier.<br /><br />I'm also hopeful that bringing home a full term infant will feel like a walk in the park compared to what we endured when the girls were born at 27 weeks.<br /><br />But even so, I'm still scared sh*tless about how I'm going to manage it all, especially with Hannah's challenges. I guess I never knew how I'd manage twins or manage a child with a disability and now I do, so I'm hoping this too will sort itself out. Crossing fingers!!!<br /><br />Anyway, this was really meant to just be a thank you-and also a shoutout to a fellow Vermonter:)-but ended up being my two cents on the whole "having another baby" thing...but thanks again and I'm so glad to see how well Drake is doing!<br /><br />KristaCP and Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09516244215791006853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7213274210281482944.post-67951711537962420542009-04-24T16:29:00.000-07:002009-04-24T16:29:00.000-07:00Kelly - I started typing out a whole long comment ...Kelly - I started typing out a whole long comment in response to this post but then deleted it. I was trying to "relate" to your feelings of guilt about doing IVF. But I can't relate, so I won't try. So all I will say, is that I hope you can figure out how to put these feelings away and find some peace. Drake and Lulu are so lucky to have you as their mom! And absolutely nothing that YOU did caused Drake's PVL. NOTHING!Caryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09106769763459813759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7213274210281482944.post-51406939545368519132009-04-24T08:17:00.000-07:002009-04-24T08:17:00.000-07:00I relate to a lot of what you say in this post.
...I relate to a lot of what you say in this post. <br /><br /><br />We did 3 IVFs (you can read more detail on my blog) and had several embryos in storage after the last successful cycle. After Al.ex's challenges presented themselves, I thought about the potential with stem cells too - but like you - donated them to research after we realized that it was a remote possiblity since the cells are not Al.ex's. (I do regret not having banked his cord blood - they have done some amazing treatments for CP with cord blood at Duke.)<br /><br />I also have felt guilt that I was "selfish" in doing IVF and actually wanting twins, and if the fact that Al.ex is a twin is the "cause" for his delays. I, too, try just not to go there because it is not productive or positive. But the thought lingers occasionally.<br /><br />And, yes, I feel like the twin preg. was a 1.5 and having twins now is sometimes 1/1.5/2 times the work and fun depending on the day. And I wonder sometimes if I'm missing out on each one's individual accomplishments sometimes because I'm so busy focusing on them as a whole.<br /><br />I def. think I would be more relaxed with a 3rd child, but prob. just because it would be the 2nd time going through the experience of pg and infancy, as well as less worries about developmental stuff with a singleton, especially if he/she was full-term. (even though our twins were full-term.)<br /><br />But we decided we were "done" for various reasons - and we know we won't get pg naturally so we had to be really really sure we were done before we donated them.Hopeful Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15339776324264791028noreply@blogger.com